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Last man standing in poetry marathon

A chilly and wet day today: a foretaste of autumn. But most days are still warm and summery; so we can’t complain. Yesterday afternoon we had drinks in the garden with Anne, who departs for a Mediterranean cruise on Thursday, hoping not to be confused with Libyan migrants. In the evening Dot and I went to the cinema and saw Trainwreck in the company of a largely young and female audience. We guessed we were not the target market, but it was nevertheless a very funny and rewarding film, with some wonderful dialogue.

Earlier in the day we extracted a large amount of bedding, mainly in the form of duvets and pillows, from the loft, spruced it all up a bit and took it to the Jubilee Hall (next to St Luke’s on Aylsham Road) for the benefit of some Congolese people who are gathering there in preparation for the funeral of two cousins who drowned in Thorpe Marshes nature reserve. The boy, aged 11 was called Bonheur and lived in The Lathes. The church gave his family £200 on Sunday toward expenses surrounding the funeral.

Later on Sunday Dot and I went to Walpole Old Chapel, near Halesworth, for the annual poetry reading. It was almost too well attended, because the reading started at 5pm and didn’t finish till well after 8.30pm. I was scheduled to read last, which – viewed in pop music terms – has to be good. It was a bit of a marathon, though, despite the half-time drinks and cake, and by the time I got to read it was not only extremely chilly but also nearly dark. There was only one light in the chapel. Still, we hung in there, despite the counter-attraction of a bird that got in and couldn’t get out, and I got a pretty enthusiastic  reception. They even laughed at my jokes. I read three newish poems: After Sun, A Train Approaches and Proof of Heaven.

Elliott makes himself at home in the garden
Elliott makes himself at home in the garden

Proceeding backwards, on Saturday Sam and Lucy came round with Elliott, and went into the garden, where Elliott had a great time pulling flowers apart and transferring stones into places they shouldn’t be. Dot got out David’s old train set and a tractor, both of which Elliott played with and then departed with. Meanwhile Norwich City scored their first win in the Premiership, beating Sunderland 3-1 away.

Earlier last week the main event was the arrival of Adrian and Clarissa by boat on Wednesday. We had a call from them while Dot and I were at Jessie’s in North Walsham. I was on my way to a Paston assignation, but Dot was on her way home after visiting Peter at Cromer for some p4c film editing. Dot dropped in on Adrian after she got back – as did Roger, who also been at North Walsham – and I completed the party when I arrived back from the Paston event. Good to see them: they had Menna’s three girls with them – Maddy, Olivia and Isabel. All delightful, especially Maddy, the oldest.

The following morning they came up for coffee and biscuits before departing for the city as Dot left for the dentist. They had a packed programme. In the last two days they had to get the boat back to Potter Heigham, via Breydon Water, visit Yarmouth (don’t ask me why) and call in on Jessie.

The Paston event mentioned consisted of an informal trustees’ meeting with food (mackerel pate) in the rather chilly garden of the Ship Inn at Mundesley, followed by tea and coffee at Lucy’s. She is not too good, since her last-ditch cancer treatment provoked an allergic reaction. It is hard to say how bad she is, because she always seems to come back strongly, but she didn’t feel well enough to proceed with Rob, Peter and myself to Bacton village hall, where we met the Bacton Historical Society with a view to their helping us in our NHL bid. We got an encouraging reception, and enjoyed a 40 min tape of Bacton people reminiscing about previous times. It was much more interesting than it sounds.

Dot plays key role in Wembley triumph

Canaries celebrate their play-off final victory.
Canaries celebrate their play-off final victory.

Yes, it was worth it. But it did require a lot of effort, and it was unexpectedly draining in terms of energy – and that was just us, not the players. Anyway Norwich City won the play-off final 2-0; so everything is fine. The EDP is making lots of money with its souvenir issues and add-ons, and that’s fine too.

We left Norwich around 9am, after picking up Naomi from a house in Alan Road (she had stayed the night there after the Radio 1 Big Weekend at Earlham Park) and a friend of Patrick’s case from a hotel on Newmarket Road. This is just one example of the number of things that had to be brought together for our mission to succeed.

There was lots of traffic on the road, of course, but no real problems until we stopped at South Mimms services on the A1 and Jonathan and Naomi decided to have a coffee. Since the services were crowded with supporters of one kind or another, this took a lot of time, and by the time we reached Stanmore station the car park was full. Not only that, but there were so many cars trying to find non-existent spaces that we took about 20 minutes to get out again.

We continued towards Wembley and a parking space that Jonathan had booked in someone’s drive through JustPark.com. We had no problem finding it, but the drive had two cars already parked in such a way that you couldn’t get a third in. Fortunately the owner was in and expressed astonishment that we had booked, since he had heard nothing from JustPark for two years. However, he was quite amenable to moving one of the other vehicles to give us space.

From there it was a longish walk to the stadium, and I was already feeling tired. We had to ask the way once, but then met Patrick’s brother William at Wembley Park Tube. He had booked us into a Nepali restaurant the other side of the stadium; we were already half an hour late, and it took about half an hour to walk there, by which time I was shattered. On the way we saw the Norwich City coach being barracked by Middlesbrough supporters, and Dot seized Patrick’s City shirt (he wasn’t wearing it) and waved it, receiving a thumbs-up from City skipper Russell Martin. We feel this was a key factor in their victory.

The restaurant was unexpectedly empty and the meal (very similar to Indian) very good, though I’m not sure curry and beer is the ideal meal to have in this situation. After it we walked back to the stadium, found the entrance and ascended into the sky, eventually reaching our seats three rows from the back. The view was unexpectedly good and clear, the only problem being that the people in front of us chose to stand all the way through the first half and most of the second. Very irritating.

Of course the match was pretty exciting, though not a classic, because Norwich were so much on top. The Middlesbrough supporters had mostly melted away by the time we joined the throng emerging for another long walk back to the car. I’m sure we didn’t go the quickest way, but I didn’t like to argue with William, who seemed to know the area. On the way we saw a genuine fight, with blood, between a small group of Middlesbrough supporters (no Norwich fans involved), followed by a number of police restraining another man near the Tube station.

Dot quite pleased at the result
Dot quite pleased at the result

We reached the car successfully (it seemed much further away than before) and after saying farewell to Patrick and William, took Naomi to Stanmore tube, where she was getting a train to stay with relatives in London. This was a slow journey, and at one point Naomi became desperate for the loo and had to rush into a Prezzo’s. Still, we made it and dropped her off.

The journey back to Norwich was incident-free, though I got us onto the M1 by mistake and we had to divert across by the St Albans route on tho the A1. But I don’t think it added much in the way of time. Jonathan dropped us off at about 9.20pm; we watched the cricket (England had beaten New Zealand in the first test, which David and Kevin had attended at Lord’s on the Saturday) and then fell into bed.

We spent all yesterday recovering, both of us being tired out. Dot chose this day to start us on a 5-2 diet (this was a 2), and I was too weak to argue.

The weekend, even without Wembley, was a full one. On Saturday we were invited to Adrian O’dell’s 70th birthday party, held at the CNS in their new Arc facility. I was surprised to see how much of the school was still recognisable. We sat at a table with a couple of blokes I don’t think I knew when I was at school (Harvey and Huggins) and their wives, and the evening was very enjoyable.

Since it was Adrian’s party, it was also highly organised and included a slide show of his life (exhausting even to watch, let alone live), plus a singing of the school song, a hog roast buffet, a quiz and various music, including a ukulele band, a very long eightsome reel, a choral group and a band called the Hobblers, who were actually quite good. Our table came equal first in the quiz but lost the actual prize on an extremely dubious tie-split. We were obviously gutted (not).

On Sunday, another party – this time Rodney’s 75th, at their Dereham home. It followed closely on a service which I not only preached at but led when the actual leader was double-booked. So we were half an hour late at Dereham, but this didn’t seem to matter. It was an excellent party, with fantastic buffet food, good company and even some games (crazy golf, boules) when it stopped raining.

Richard had his two daughters with him, and I spent some time talking to Charlotte’s newish husband, James, who turned out to be an estate agent. (Charlotte is Vicki’s tiny half-sister.) Vicki had recently broken up with her long-term partner Graham, so was not feeling on top of the world; she brought a female friend – Jane, I think – instead, and she was very nice. So all went well. They have giant fish in their pond. Very frightening. They are big fish in a small pond.

Sudden spring rehearsal

Changing landscape in Norwich. The old brewery building land has been cleared, and temporarily you can see St Peter Parmentergate Church juxtaposed with the Castle in the background.
Changing landscape in Norwich. The old brewery building land on KIng Street has been cleared, and temporarily you can see St Peter Parmentergate Church juxtaposed with the Castle in the background.

Yesterday we arrived at church just after 10am below grey skies, light rain and the familiar  chilly wind. When we emerged at 3pm, after a rehearsal with Phil, Emily and her boyfriend Lawrence, the sun had come out and it was perceptibly warm. Spring had crept in. Later in the day Dot and I went for a walk beside the River toward Carrow Road and got quite hot (and very tired).

The rehearsing is taking its toll: my right arm is still sore from the fall and was aching a lot last night. But I have taken advice from the chemist, who says nothing is broken. I do find that I can do a bit more with it every day. This morning it’s not so bad, but Dot wants to rehearse again. Then Far Cry (all five of us) will rehearse at the venue at 6pm, and then – at last – play for real. It will be something of a relief.

Dot’s seminar at the UEA went very well (no surprise there), but the parish annual meeting was not so thrilling, although the food by Karen Wimhurst and friends was excellent. Several no-shows from both sides, but Adrian turned up and mopped up quite a lot of the spare food. St Augustine’s were hardly mentioned, but that was partly my fault. I had kind of expected Howard to be there, and so had not prepared a talk, though I would have said something if asked.

Howard did eventually put in an appearance – on Saturday night at St Peter Hungate, where Louise Øhrstrøm was speaking on Julian, as part of the Julian Week events. Very good talk, though you had to listen carefully, and it got very cold towards the end. Had a quick chat with her – she came to St Augustine’s when she was at UEA, but is now back in Denmark. Howard seems on top form after Sri Lanka – perhaps too enthusiastic, as his sermon on Sunday lasted about 45 minutes!

On Thursday a bit of cunning forward planning – I postponed my bath and was rewarded when (a) a parcel I was expecting arrived about 10am and (b) shortly after it, the Sonata alarm man arrived two or three hours earlier than scheduled. Dot was out; so I was able to answer the door and then have a late bath. Sometimes these things work out…

On Friday evening we were invited to No 11 by Des and Chris, the new owners. Sam, Chris and Ellie also showed up, which meant we found out less than we might have done about our hosts, since Sam is not slow in coming forward. Still, we enjoyed the evening. The white wine was nice.

On the trail of gorillas

Oliver, Dot and Amy find a gorilla in Chapelfield Gardens
Oliver, Dot and Amy find a gorilla in Chapelfield Gardens

Slipped into September almost without noticing, as usual. Dot is far from me, having journeyed up to Middlesbrough with Barbara yesterday, where she stayed the night before delivering some Philosophy4Children at a nearby school. She is doing this as I write. They will then drive back, arriving early to mid evening. This means I shall have to attend a PCC meeting without her invaluable support, but I expect I’ll manage 🙂

As usual I have wasted much time, and now have to work hard to catch up. Today is Joy’s birthday. I took her presents round yesterday: they included some old Amy Carmichael books that I unearthed, one containing a letter from the Dohnavur Fellowship to my aunt Mary, thanking her for looking after one of their lads. Joy is into AC at the moment, so hopefully she will find that interesting.

Also yesterday I was sole musician at church until Carrie took over the first hymn (at my invitation). We tried to do the second one together, but it didn’t work too well because of the tricky timing. I easily get lured off track by people singing slightly differently… Still, nice service altogether. I forgot to take the collection home and had to go back for it.

It’s been another busy week. When isn’t it? Back on Monday, a week ago, we had lunch at Lucy’s with Simeon. It may be the last time we visit Dayspring, because she’s moving to Mundesley later this month. Very pleasant: we had tea in the garden afterwards: warm sun with a bit of wind in exposed places. Afterwards we went to the cemetery in North Walsham and then called to see Jessie, where we found Roger, Adrian, Clarissa and some tea and cake.

Later, Adrian and Clarissa came (as planned) to stay with us for a couple of nights because Bury were playing Norwich City in the Capital One Cup on the Tuesday. Confused? Well, Adrian’s son Gareth is now captain of Bury. Dot and I also got tickets (declining the offer of free seats with what turned out to be an extremely noisy Bury contingent), and it was a great game, Norwich winning 6-3 and scoring some excellent goals.

Adrian and Clarissa departed on Wednesday, and we left too, eventually – for Caddington, to pick up Oliver and Amy.  They stayed with us until the Saturday. On Thursday we all went to West Runton in the afternoon and stayed till early evening as the tide went out and the beach got more and more peaceful. There was a certain amount of rock pool investigation, and some enthusiastic climbing and descending of a steep cliff slope. Both have huge amounts of energy, of course. Amy did some gymnastics on the groyne.

On Friday, with Oliver feeling a bit less energetic because of a cold, we took a bus into the city, where we followed part of a gorilla trail and then visited a bike shop to look at a possible bike for Oliver’s birthday. Afterwards we had a slightly surreal lunch in BHS, because Dot had a voucher. David arrived at 9pm.

On Saturday David, Oliver, Amy and I returned to the bike shop and, rather unexpectedly, completed a purchase. This meant that David had to go to Halfords to buy a bike carrier for his car – and then fix it on to the car. In the middle of that we had lunch at Prezzos, which seemed to have recovered some poise following our last, rather disappointing visit. Plenty of Norwich City supporters about: happily the Canaries beat Southampton 1-0.

David and the children returned home early in the evening with a certain amount of trepidation, but both bike and carrier survived the trip in sound condition, as did Oliver, Amy and David.

While we were in the bike shop I got a really unexpected phone call from Andrew, who seemed surprisingly coherent. Is something amazing happening, or is it part of a cycle? That wasn’t really meant to be funny.

I’ve just finished a book called Quiet, by Susan Cain, which David got me for my birthday. This is about “the power of introverts in a world that can’t stop talking”  – and so clearly right up my street. I should have read it 50 years ago. Unfortunately, she’s only just written it. Fascinating stuff. Makes me feel better, which can’t be bad.

About as perfect as it gets

Dave and Anandi Brennan

At last summer has arrived, and we are bathed in warm sunshine. Yesterday Adrian and Clarissa arrived in their Potter Heigham boat, Gliding Light, and moored at the bottom of the road. We joined them for a drink in the Compleat Angler (bottom deck), and later they  came up to ours for a kind of high tea in the garden – sitting outside till about 10pm! They had their friends Brian and Celia with them, and we had a good evening. The weather is set to continue as we pick up Oliver and Amy later today.

An eventful few days, it must be said, starting last Thursday with a haircut and visit to a poetry session on John Betjeman in the Narthex at St John’s RC Cathedral. Still cool and wet then, and the session was not brilliant. The members of the group were less than inspiring, and leader Hilary M was not at her best, feeling the effects of blood sugar loss and having problems with the equipment.

Friday was brilliant, however. The surveyor eventually turned up and didn’t inspire an awful lot of confidence. We decided to let the insurers supply a builder for the ceiling repairs (skimming, replacing some plasterboard, and making the ceiling good), but the roof is not covered (if you see what I mean). So I have contacted Mr Bunn the Builder – well, he’s a roofer, actually. He came this morning and did inspire confidence. He’s going to make the roof watertight in the next couple of days and do a complete job on the “valley” and tiles a couple of weeks later. Needless to say the roof featured things he had never seen before.

But that’s not why Friday was brilliant. That was down to Anandi’s wedding at the Cathedral, which was a one-off. Not that it was perfect: the sermon was too long, we couldn’t see clearly, and we had difficulty hearing the speeches at the reception because Blackfriars Hall has lousy acoustics. But it was a fine day and it all had a lovely naturalness and simplicity – for instance, the bride and groom walked from the cathedral to Blackfriars. After the service we had champagne and nibbles in the cloisters for quite a long time: lots of people from St Augustine’s were there, but only Dot and I (plus the vicar and his wife) were invited to the reception. In the cloisters we had music from an a cappella group which had appeared on TV but which was composed mainly of friends of the groom – who sang a little bit as a tribute to his wife! Both Anandi and her new husband Dave are so likeable it’s frightening.

Debbie and Neil with (the Rev) Heather Cracknell, who took the service

On Saturday another “wedding”: this time a renewal of vows after 25 years by Debbie and Neil, two friends from St Luke’s. By now the weather was stunning, and the setting – Ranworth Church on the Broads – was equally gorgeous. Debbie went the whole hog with a white dress, bridesmaids and all the trimmings – we think because their actual wedding had been a registry office affair and very low-key. Cake and tea afterwards in the church grounds (it has a church hall cafe) completed the picture, together with a trip up the church tower, with its spectacular views.

Earlier in the day Colin came round and cut the hedge, and I went to the launch of Joe’s book, Journeying with Abraham, at St Andrew’s Church, Eaton. Couple of dozen people there, which was encouraging for him, and I had a chat with both him and Birgit. Then at the end of a very packed day, Dot and I went round to the Higbees for a meal, which was very relaxing. As a result of that, Alan H came round yesterday to put right a problem with the lighting in the loft that he had installed.

Bright day on Sunday: after a nice service at church, with Geoff debuting as preacher, we relaxed. Dot spent a lot of time gardening, and I watched quite a bit of the Open and saw the end of the Tour de France, with Wiggins in yellow, Froome second and Cavendish winning the final sprint. Which is about as perfect as it gets in the world of cycling.

On the battlements with different views

Jane, Libby and John on the battlements of Norwich Castle

Full day on Sunday, which started with a Communion service at which a happy and contented young George Myers was dedicated. Vicky’s parents came down from Lothersdale, and various other family members and friends boosted the congregation to around 35. There was cake, and the weather was warm. Later Dot and I went to Cinema City for a private showing of Rüthli – the Little Dynamo. This was a film put together by Rüthli’s husband Douglas and a photographer friend to celebrate her life and her final few months (she died of a brain tumour last March). Very professionally done, but I would like to have seen more of her work and her earlier years. I only knew her for a few months, really. I collaborated with her for a show called Voices and Visions – I wrote a couple of poems to go with two abstract pictures that she produced following a visit to the Arctic – and it must have been around that time that she got the diagnosis. She was bubbly and full of life, whereas in some of the shots from the film that had all gone. We have been round to their house in Eaton – called Asgard – which is full of pictures and sculpture. Dot has struck up a friendship with Douglas recently: they have a shared interest in gardening. He is about as eccentric as Rüthli was, though not as tiny. Both art teachers and keen motor-cyclists!

In the evening we went to a fund-raising event at the Workshop – a cafe on Earlham Road – put on by Matt, our former “lodger”, who will be leaving for Palestine in three weeks’ time. There was some guitar-and-singing which would have been better with some coherent or even interesting lyrics, but was sort of entertaining anyway. However the main event was a quiz, which was won by our team, mainly because it was the biggest and despite our knowing almost nothing about 90s Britpop. Dot and I got a £10 book token, and our other team members, Debbie Sands and her husband Neil, got the Cinema City tickets. Matt brought his American girl friend Lorie, who isn’t going to Palestine but we hope will be waiting for him when he gets back. Looking promising, I have to say – she’s very sweet. Will he be moving to America? Watch this space.

(This is a false alarm – see later posts) Some time around now I seem to have discovered that my grandfather was not only in the Army from 1900 to 1903 but got married in 1905 in Mansfield to someone other than my grandmother – a woman called Annie Mary Steele. He would have had to get unmarried to her fairly quickly, but whether through death or divorce or something else I know not. It merits further investigation, as they say.

Shortly before noon on Monday the Redgraves arrived, complete with children Libby (11) and Archie (9), who I have to say were delightful. We spent most of the afternoon in the Castle Museum, including a battlements tour. The guide was full of information I didn’t know and really excellent at putting it across, though I suspect it was a bit much for the children in the party. They had evening meal with us and stayed till about 9.30pm before heading back to Kessingland, where they are renting a holiday chalet. The weather was good, but deteriorated sharply yesterday. It was great to see them: we met in Crete 17 years ago, when they were on their honeymoon. We’ve visited them in Brighton and they’ve been to Norfolk two or three times, and we get on very well despite the gaps.

Yesterday I wrote two or three more poems about the Waveney and spent a lot of time trying to work out whether our Tuesday Group were going to North Walsham for a Molten Meditation event, as suggested by David Archer at the Workshop on Monday. After many phone calls and e-mails we ended up having our usual meal here, and even David decided not to go to North Walsham, partly because Bridget was under the weather. Turned out to be a smallish group, augmented by Adrian, an alternative gentleman who comes to church occasionally, and his dog, who had tagged on to Harriet in her trek across the city. This made it a bit different. I ended up sitting in the garden with him and the dog while he gave me his viewpoint on life.

1 November 2008

Long time no post – and no wall, either, after a builder’s lorry slightly misjudged the corner. This happened while I was in the bath and Dot was in London, The builder guy was very apologetic, and it has been measured up for rebuilding.

That came in the middle of an awful ten days or so. We had a nice weekend in Caddington for Amy’s fourth, staying over to the Monday – her actual birthday. But I was feeling under the weather and didn’t accompany them to Milton Keynes. Nothing I could really put my finger on, but it wouldn’t go away. We came home on Monday evening and had a pleasant journey with Dot driving, but I was extremely tired by the time we got home and into bed. The next morning I was feeling awful in just about every area and went to the doctor’s, who thought it was flu or something viral. Of course.

Paracetamol barely touched it, and the next two or three days were very unpleasant, but it seemed to be easing off by Friday, when I managed to eat a meal with Jessie and Roger and Adrian and Clarissa, who were staying with us for the Norwich-Doncaster match. But then I felt so bad I had to go back to bed, and didn’t get out again, despite the free tickets for Carrow Road. On the Saturday I couldn’t stop shivering, and Dot called the emergency health line. A doctor came out around 5.30pm and said he was pretty sure it was influenza: he gave me some cocodamol tablets and some antibiotics (“just in case”). The cocodamol did have an effect, though not as dramatic as he indicated they would. I stopped shivering and slipped into a sort of alternate reality where I just lay very still for a long time. No appetite at all.

Not a lot of progress before A & C went, though I managed to have a brief chat from my bed. I had to cancel my poetry reading, of course, also my chess game, Tuesday night, visit to UEA with Nicholas to hear David Hare, Ambient Wonder involvement and so on. Though not in that order. Dot rang surgery on the Monday to get my blood results, but they insisted on speaking to me, and eventually I spoke to another doctor (Dr Holt) who said my blood test was OK, but I could see him on the Wednesday if I wanted to. I did. In the meantime Dot went to London on the Tuesday to meet Chris and Jan Stokes and was delayed on the way back by a trolley on the line.

On the Wednesday the doctor said he was sure it was flu, and it would take me quite a long time to recover fully. I completed the antibiotics but don’t think they had any effect and it really was (is) viral. Now I am taking tablets off and on, feeling pretty OK one minute and not at all right the next. On the plus side, recovery from my operation seems to be unaffected. I am supposed to be preaching at church tomorrow, which I think should be OK, but I’m writing it out in case Dot has to deliver it!